99 Problems But a Mentor Ain't One!

I was having a great week. I had returned from ECET2, a convening celebrating effective teachers and teaching. It was hosted by the Gates Foundation (@gatesed), and all 350 attendees were nominated from major educational organizations. From that experience, I gained new friendships and possible opportunities for future collaboration. Our NJASCD North Region had a successful weekday PD event with Eric Sheninger (@NMHS_Principal) on Digital Learning and Leading. Eric even stayed 45 minutes after his presentation ended to ask me, and my North Region Co-Director, Billy J. Krakower (@wkrakower), how we were doing personally and professionally. Life was good. But all I could think about was some offhand comment someone had made to me a few days earlier.

It was an innocuous comment made to me by someone I don’t know. And, it’s so silly it doesn’t even bear repeating. Yet, I stayed in my car for almost ten minutes before reversing my car out of my parking spot.

In prior posts I’ve written about the importance of treating each other well and modeling it daily, the importance of honesty in our relationships with students, parents, and peers,  and staying true to our core values as educators. I pride myself in finding the good in others, in our field, and myself, which is why as I reflected on this moment, I wondered where my unwavering positivity went. Why would I let someone I don’t know, who doesn’t know me and will never see me again, have a lasting effect on me? Why would I allow someone to take away my excellence?

Eric Bernstein (@bernsteinusc), in his race to write more than I do, wrote a beautiful piece about the importance of understanding who students are as people, and where they are as learners. (http://edge.ascd.org/_Lessons-From-the-Fonz-Part-1/blog/6562962/127586.html). His belief (and mine, too) is: the better we know our students, the more successful we can educate them. I think we can extend this concept: the better we know and are honest with ourselves, the better we can educate our students because we will be in a better place, too. And, it’s important for us to be honest with ourselves, acknowledge what irks us (like a throwaway comment by a stranger), and have a support system in place to assist us when we hear the negative whispers after a comment like that which feeds into our insecurities.

With the hope that this post supports other educators who hear and sometimes can’t block out the negative whispers, here is my advice to keep the faith:

1. Get Some Ed Therapy: Twitter has salvaged my day more than I like to admit. When I’m down, drained, or dejected, I click on my Tweetdeck shortcut and connect with my edufriends. They have become an extended family, one I share my thoughts, questions, concerns, and ruminations about life in and outside of education. I know they will always be my rock when I need them, and hope they know the same is true for me. My #ASCDL2L, #satchat, #njed, #arkedchat, #iaedchat, #edchat, and #ECET2 crew, I love you all. (Hashtag that).

2. Find Your Matt Hall: every person in education needs one person in their district who believes in them and shares of themselves, so we become better by learning from their experiences, instead of having to go through them ourselves. Matt Hall (@MHall_MST), the Science and Technology Supervisor in my district, is that person for me. Because he’s paid his dues, knows my driven nature and my end goals, listens to me when I speak, and guides me when my thinking needs redirection. And, he’s a vault. What goes on with Matt Hall, stays with Matt Hall.

3. Have a Phone Call with Someone from Iowa (or North Carolina, Minnesota, or New York): it was one year ago when I was at a crossroads professionally. I wasn’t sure where my path was leading, or if I could go further. Jimmy Casas (Casas_Jimmy), who I’d known briefly from a couple Twitter interactions, called me and spoke with me for an hour. We discussed me: who I was, who I wanted to be, what my long-term goals were, and why. Jimmy reminded me I couldn’t change my current situation, but I could change my mindset. And it was that conversation, followed by conversations with Steven Weber (@curriculumblog), Kimberly A. Hurd (@khurdhorst), and Maureen Connolly (http://goo.gl/RPN7DH) that prompted me to e-mail Marie Adair (@todayadair), the Executive Director of NJASCD, and ask what I could do to help the organization. Her response: “Whatever you are comfortable with. We’re just happy to have you join us.”

Like Eric Bernstein’s post, I tried to focus on three main points. Additionally, Eric mentioned his desire to keep his message short, but acknowledged the challenges inherent in that. With that being said, I wanted to list the 99 people who have mentored me on the anniversary of my mindset changing conversations. I am not a better person, father, husband, or teacher without them in my life. I have listed Eric Sheninger, Billy Krakower, Eric Bernstein, Matt Hall, Jimmy Casas, Steven Weber, Kim Hurd, Maureen Connolly, and Marie Adair already, so I will start at the number ten, in no order. Each one of them has helped shape and mold me in some way. To acknowledge that, I have included their Twitter handles if they have them. All are worthy of a follow, and will reciprocate sharing ideas with the goal that we all go further together. We may have 99 problems, but a mentor should not be one:

10. David Culberhouse (@dculberhouse)

11. Daisy Dyer-Duerr (@daisydyerduerr)

12. Scott Rocco (@scottrrocco)

13. Brad Currie (@bcurrie5)

14. John Fritzky (@johnfritzky)

15. Jay Eitner (@isupereit)

16. Anthony Fitzpatrick (@antfitz)

17. Diane Jacobs

18. Pam Lester (@njpam)

19. Mariann Helfant

20. MaryJean DiRoberto

21. Tom Tramaglini (@tomtramaglini)

22. Matt Mingle (@mmingle1)

23. Alina Davis (@alinadavis)

24. Fred Ende (@fredende)

25. Becki Kelly (@bekcikelly)

26. Kevin Kelly (@emammuskevink)

27. Tony Sinanis (@tonysinanis)

28. Ross LeBrun (@MrLeBrun)

29. Darren Vanishkian (@mrvteaches)

30. Glenn Robbins (@glennr1809)

31. Rebecca McLelland-Crawley

32. Bruce Arcurio (@principalarc)

33. Scott Totten (@4bettereducatio)

34. Kevin Connell (@WHS_Principal)

35. Krista Rundell (@klrundell)

36. Cory Radisch (@MAMS_Principal)

37. Meg (Simpson) Cohen (@megkcohen)

38. Tina Byland

39. Klea Scharberg

40. Suzy Brooks (@simplysuzy)

41. Eric Russo (@erusso78)

42. Walter McKenzie (@walterindc)

43. Kristen Olsen (@kristenbolsen)

44. Kevin Parr

45. Robert Zywicki (@zywickir)

46. Chris Giordano (@giordanohistory)

47. Jim Cordery (@jcordery)

48. Drew Frank (@ugafrank)

49. Jasper Fox, Sr. (@jsprfox)

50. Kate Baker (@ktbkr4)

51. Megan Stamer (@meganstamer)

52. John Falino (@johnfalino1)

53. Jon Harper (@johnharper70bd)

54. Grant Wiggins (@grantwiggins)

55. Kirsten Wilson (@teachkiwi)

56. Dan P. Butler (@danpbutler)

57. Tim Ito (@timito4)

58. Andre Meadows (@andre_meadows)

59. Tom Whitford (@twhitford)

60. Matt Renwick (@readbyexample)

61. Chris Bronke (@mrbronke)

62. Daniel Ryder (@wickeddecentlearning)

63. Emily Land (@eland1682)

64. Jessica (J-Wright) Wright (@jessicampitts)

65. Phil Griffins (@philgriffins)

66. Jennifer Orr (@jenorr)

67. Sophia Weissenborn (@srweissenborn)

68. Kristie Martorelli (@azstoykristie)

69. Michelle Lampinen (@michlampinen)

70. Manan Shah (@shahlock)

71. Tom Murray (@thomascmurray)

72. Rich Kiker (@rkiker)

73. Irvin Scott (@iscott4)

74. Vivett Hymens (@lotyssblossym)

75. Jon Spencer (@jonspencer4)

76. Jozette Martinez (jozi_is_awesome)

77. Peggy Stewart (@myglobalside)

78. Michael J. Dunlea (@michaeljdunlea)

79. Karen Arnold (@sanford475)

80. Ashleigh Ferguson (@ferg_ashleigh)

81. Jill Thompson (@edu_thompson)

82. Rick Hess (@rickhess99)

83. Maddie Fennell (@maddief)

84. Todd Whitaker (@toddwhitaker)

85. Jeff Zoul (@jeff_zoul)

86. Jen Audley (@jen_audley)

87. Kevin Scott (@edu_kevin_)

88. Kathryn Suk (@ksukeduc)

89. Baruti Kafele (@principalkafele)

90. Peter DeWitt (@petermdewitt)

91. Anthony McMichael (@a_mcmichael)

92. Natalie Franzi (@nataliefranzi)

93. Paul Bogush (@paulbogush)

94. Sam Morra (@sammorra)

95. Spike C. Cook (@drspokecook)

96. Colin Wikan (@colinwikan)

97. George Courous (@gcouros)

98. Scott Taylor (@tayloredlead)

99. Dave Burgess (@burgessdave)

ECET2: We Are Family

What is family?

If you go by the dictionary definition, it’s people who are related to you by common blood and descendants. If you follow the lyrics of Sister Sledge, it’s based on friendship, commonalities, closeness. And, if you were at ECET2, you realize it’s the 350 people you laughed, cried, and shared stories with during a three day convening based on a common passion for being an educator.

ECET2 is an acronym for Elevating and Celebrating Effective Teachers and Teaching, a convening hosted and funded by the Gates Foundation (@gatesed). Each of the educators invited to attend were nominated by a professional organization to best represent them. These organizations put up their A-Team, their MacGyvers, their Shakespeares, believing within each nominated person’s DNA was a common trait: a desire to support the whole child and their families. These attendees were not superheroes. They were more than that: people whose only invincibility was their unwavering belief that all students had the power to learn, as long as we empowered them to do so.

I was one of those 350 edustars. I was nominated by ASCD. Surprised that they chose me, smart enough not to question it, just thankfully blessed, I humbly accepted. (Didn’t want them to reconsider). I would find out later that this “Why me?” question was another commonality my new edufamily shared, because in our minds just doing our jobs got us here.

Our role at home was to help raise and nurture the next group of societal leaders, using our classroom and subject matter as the forum to teach problem solving, questioning, active listening, collaboration, teamwork, and advocacy. As ECET2 attendees, we would model, rinse, and repeat these skills through three intensely thought provoking days, 8,000 feet above sea level, in Snowbird, Utah.

The elevation in the ECET2 acronym meant raising our edugame through guided discussions, interactive presentations, Ted-style talks, and social downtime. We met in small, colleague circles, discussing chosen focus topics. We shared resources, asked questions, and actively listened, all under the agreement that the first rule of colleague circles was you don’t talk about colleague circles. It was the law of Las Vegas: what goes on in the circle stays in the circle.

This respectful collegiality, this understanding that our takeaway from each colleague circle, presentation, and discussion was to learn from and with each other, signified the power of a phrase I learned from George Couros (@gcouros): the smartest person in the room is the room. Or, as my friend and ASCD co-presenter, Eric Russo (@erusso78) said during our presentation on EduCore, “Barry and I were geeking out before with our breakfast table. Talking growth mindset, special education, school culture, and problem of practice, sharing documents we created, all while eating bacon.”

We all geeked out with each other by alternately learning, teaching, and leading so each member of our ECET2 family got better. So they could celebrate their new knowledge within their district, school, and student families. And, so we could all feel a little more effective in the process.

Katie Novak (@katienovakudl) called ECET2 “a movement.” I love her thinking, but it runs deeper than that for me. Originally, I saw the nomination by ASCD and the invitation to ECET2 by the Gates Foundation as a sign that ‘I’d made it’. When I attended the convening, I realized the  ‘it’ was just the beginning of the journey. The real test to see whether I was worthy of my invite and had learned from my experience was what I would do next. How would I show my appreciation for my experience with my ECET2 family? How would I pay it forward to my edufamily at home?

The underlying approach to learning at ECET2 was to challenge and provoke our thinking through honest dialogue. No one at the convening did this better than Rick Hess (@rickhess99), of American Enterprise Institute, and Maddie Fennell (@maddief) who co-presented on ‘Cage Busting Leadership’. I asked him if he was interested in collaborating on a weekly Twitter chat. I believe our extended education family needs to hear his voice, have an opportunity to interact with him, and grow from these discussions. Rick’s response: “Love the chat idea...will figure out a way to make this happen.”

Challenging and provoking thinking comes from teacher activism. I touched base with Jessica Wright (@jessicampitts), Suzy Brooks (@simplysuzy), Chris Bronke (@mrbronke), Jen Orr (@jenorr), Vivett Hemans (@lotyssblossym), Emily Land (@eland1682), Tamera Dixon (mstdixon), and Dan Ryder (@wickeddecent). They are my pre-ECET2 family. We’d organized and led a Twitter chat the night before the convening began (http://storify.com/barrykid1/pre-ecet2-twitter-chat-on-2-16-14). We’re going to continue that discussion with a bi-monthly Twitter chat for all past and present ECET2 attendees, as well as any educators interested in Elevating and Celebrating Effective Teaching and Teachers. We’ll expand and turnkey focus topics discussed in Utah, and globally extend our colleague circles. Maybe members of the Gates Foundation, like: Dr. Irvin Scott (@iscott4), Dr. Vicki Phillips (@drvickip), Nate Brown (@hnborown1), Amy Hodges Slamp (@amyslamp), and Isis Randolph-McCree (@isismccree) would guest moderate. (hint, hint).

Teacher activism needs to be local, too. I connected with the three other New Jersey attendees at the convening: Peggy Stewart (@myglobalside), Michael J, Dunlea (@michaeljdunlea), and Katherine Bassett. With the help of our new friends from Pittsburgh (@ecet2pgh) who’ve previously hosted a regional ECET2, we’re going to figure out a way to do one too, to elevate and celebrate our effective teachers and teaching family in New Jersey. We’d love to collaborate with others on this, so if others in our area would like to pay it forward with us, let us know.

I know Sister Sledge and the dictionary both have it right: family is bound by like DNA, commonalities, and a similar mindset. That is why we say our close friends are ‘like family,’ and certain friends are ‘my brother,’ or, ‘my sister.’ From my three days in Utah, my edufriends became edufamily. And with their help and support, who knows what we will achieve? Regardless of outcome, our journey will continue together as we elevate and celebrate each other, and make one another more effective in the process.

Author’s note: to honor all who influenced me and helped make me better, I noted people’s Twitter handles. They’re great teachers, and even better people. Give them a follow. They’ll make you better, like they did me. And, you won’t have to go to Utah to do it.

Find the Good

Find the Good.

 

When I first started teaching, I’d heard and read of the importance of finding something to like about each student, even the student whose positive qualities were hard to find. I was told, “It can be as simple as the color shirt they’re wearing. Maybe they’re wearing red and you like red.Use that to drive your interactions with that student.”

Thirteen years later, I realize what the messenger meant. I think they meant: “maybe the child has a nice sense of style. They dress well. The shirt is a cool one, and I wish I could get away with wearing that one now.”

I hear from time to time when meeting with parents: “I know you have your favorites. It’s natural, everyone does.” I agree with the premise, that some students are very personable: they come in with positive experiences about school and the world. Perhaps they have a great support system. They’re charming, social, or their wittiness is matched by great comedic timing. They’re easy to like. They’re easy to find the good in. You don’t even need to tell them, they know. Someone’s probably told them before you even met them.

However, we didn’t get into this field for the easy. We did for the intrinsic rewards: the ability to create positive change by finding the good in those who may not know the good they carry. To shine a light on what’s not readily evident. To search, find, and celebrate. We’re unique. That is good.

Sounds easy.It’s not.

Students, their parents, and we educators all come into our environment each day an unfinished product. We’ve got our warts, our schemas, and our issues. Sometimes they’re easily visible, and sometimes we just think they are. While we cannot change anything that has happened when we were wards of the education system, we can create a positive one for those who move forward through it now. That means we can embody the good, find the good in others, make sure we call attention to it so the student and their parent knows it, and use that knowledge to help the child and his/her support system trend positively from this point forward. 

This repeated process enables us to find the good quicker in others, as the lens we look at people through has changed. It keeps us positive during the challenging days. And, it reminds us that all of us are capable of growth and learning. We just need to be willing to stay consistent to the process, because finding the good is a repetitive one. Find it enough, and it will find you, too.

ASCD has found the good in me. Members of the organization nominated me and three of my peers to attend Elevating and Celebrating Effective Teachers (#ECET2). This event is sponsored by the Bill and Melinda Gates Foundation. The 250 of us invited by the Foundation, will connect, collaborate, and leverage the goodness in each other. Prior to meeting everyone this coming Monday, we will host a Tweetup on Twitter Sunday night from 8 - 9 PM EST. All current and past ECET2’ers are welcome. Our goal is to find the goodness in each other, carry that with us to the convening, and turnkey it back home to our students. 

 

Find the good. 

 

Then, let it find you.

Be Excellent to Each Other!

One of my favorite movies during my high school years was ‘Bill and Ted’s Excellent Adventure.’ The movie focused on two lovable, sweet, but nowhere near valedictorian high school seniors who need to pass a history report in order to graduate. With the help of a time machine, and some luck, they pass their class, meet the girls of their dreams, and are able to start their own rock band.

At one point in the movie, Bill and Ted are transported to the very distant future, where they meet three people, aptly named ‘The Three Most Important People in the World.’ These three people recognize Bill and Ted, and seem to revere them. The men are speechless, waiting to see what Bill and Ted will do:

Ted: Bill, I think they want us to say something.

Bill: What should I say?

Ted: (shrugs) Make something up.

Bill: Be excellent to each other.

After BIll’s comment, the three men nod appreciatively, as if this is the wisest thing the two transported teens could say. And, when thinking about teacher leadership, I don’t think Bill or Ted is that far off when they say we should be excellent to each other.

Being excellent to one another is really what’s at the core of teacher leadership, for me. Excellence begins in the way we interact with each other, as professionals. We greet the secretaries in the main office. Even if their heads are down, it’s important to acknowledge them, and validate the important role they play as the first line of communication (or defense) in our buildings.

Interacting with excellence includes saying hello to each other in the hallway, even if we’ve just seen each other, or don’t know one another. We respect each other’s role in the school, and each one of us helps make our school community function positively. That quick greeting we gave may be the one that perks someone up. Or, it may be the first positive interaction that person has had all day. We’re not always cognizant of our role and effect on others, and we should be, because we’re in-tune with how others affect us.

Our students see the interactions we have with our peers and co-workers. Students see if we greet each other with a smile. They also hear our sarcasm, and see us if we use negative non-verbal communication, like turning our backs, ignoring comments from peers, or averting eye contact. Students then internalize our mannerisms. After all, we are their teacher. Aren’t students supposed to do what their teacher says to do? Don’t actions speak louder than words?

At some point, students will replicate us: either in how they talk to the peers or co-workers we spoke to (or one of similar status), or in how they speak to their own classmates. We have an opportunity to model excellence in leadership without ever leaving our classroom by ‘being excellent to each other.’ Perhaps the ‘Three Most Important People in the World’ understood that. And, perhaps Bill and Ted had a little more social intelligence than we gave them credit for in that movie. Because, creating an excellent environment depends on the consistency in which we carry our excellence with us.

Now, go be excellent to each other. See how that feels. Chances are, you’ll enjoy it.

Then, take that feeling and party on, dude. (couldn’t resist).

Be Brave

I am an upbeat person and typically listen to upbeat music to get myself ready for the workday. The two genres that energize me most are hair band metal and today’s pop music. Think Bon Jovi and Motley Crue meet Katy Perry and Lorde. These genres put me in a good place, and I feel ready to take on the day. (Don’t judge).

I was listening to a song by Sara Bareilles titled “Brave” this morning. There was a line that hit home for me:

“Say what you wanna’ say

And let the words fall out.

Honestly, I wanna’ see you be brave.”

I wondered the rest of the day: how often am I brave in education? I think I am with my teaching: I stay current in my research on best practice and am always looking to integrate new learning into the classroom. I continually invest in myself by reading my PLN’s education blogs, attend conferences, co-moderate and participate in Twitter #edchats, write, and co-direct a region of a valued professional educational organization. But, do I invest in myself and others when it’s difficult, when I may face initial isolation for my honesty, when it’s harder for me to be brave?

Bravery as an educator (to me) means the willingness to be open and honest with peers when discussing best practice. I believe I need to be brave and willing to disagree respectfully with the hope that through this dialogue my fellow educators and I will both grow in a backdrop of honesty. This means we “say what you wanna’ say, and let the words fall out.”

When we do this, we aren’t being unprofessional or judging one another. Instead, we’re willing to have the hard conversation. It isn’t personal to us, it’s about personalizing the learning and making it relevant to the children we serve. Because, isn’t that why we went into education in the first place -- to make a difference with students and their parents? To change things for the better, so others could have a better overall educational experience than we had?

Bravery as an educator to me also means the willingness to be direct and honest with the parents’ of children who need it. It’s not easy to sit with a parent and explain why their child isn’t behaving in class, producing quality work, or making good choices. However, if we want to make the difference we told ourselves when we went into this field, then we need to have this conversation. Daily, if need be. Because if we don’t, not only are we not being brave, but we’re not honoring the educators who did invest positively in us and the lives of others.

Martin Luther King Jr. stated in his ‘I Have a Dream’ speech, that “The architects of the constitution wrote a promissory note...instead of honoring this sacred obligation...America defaulted on this check….which came back marked insufficient funds.”

When we make decisions that impact children and their families, let’s make sure that those deposits we make in them never come back insufficient. That’s not brave. And, I think whether someone listens to Sara Bareilles or not, we can all agree that the more honest and real we are in our relationships, the more satisfied we all will be. Then, when we “let the words fall out,” we’ll be ready for them. And, we’ll hear them the way they’re meant to be heard. (Now you can judge).

Put Yourself in the Center of the Circle

When I began teaching thirteen years ago, I was told by my cooperating teacher that I needed to be an actor: “You’re on stage all day. You need to show energy, enthusiasm, and engage others, even if you don’t feel it.” My cooperating teacher was right about a lot of things, except for her point about being on stage: at this point in my career, I know the spotlight should be on the students, and and I should guide them from the side, as needed. Which was why as I entered the center of the circle during our Morning Meeting group activity, I was very conflicted.

I didn’t feel like I belonged there. Another student should. So, how did I find myself in the center during the group activity Description? My students asked me to go, but why did I listen? I was caught off-guard and couldn’t find a reason not to go in the middle. Three students huddled together and wrote something on an index card. Then, they taped it to my back. I stood up, shuffling within the area of the circle, so each student could see what was written on my back. Everyone, but me.

Description is like 21 Questions, the person in the middle will ask a question, and the members in the circle can answer with a yes or no. Occasionally they will tell someone, “that’s not a good question.” We modify the activity so that the person asking the question has three to five minutes to figure out the word on his or her back. Keep it quick.

The words on someone’s back connect to where we are in the curriculum. I use this as our jumping off point, or anticipatory set, for when we get to the topic mentioned in Description. The two words written and guessed prior to me standing up were: Andrew Jackson (where we are in Social Studies), followed by pizza (what Maniac Magee is allergic to in the Jerry Spinelli book we’re using as mentor text).

I began by asking if the word taped to my back was a place. (it wasn’t). Thing. (no). So, I knew it was a person. As I asked question after question, the students laughed, giggled, smiled, and all raised their hands. They were engaged, and I felt good.

I got the answer correct within the three to five minute grace period. The answer related to an inside joke we shared this year. It was unimportant. What was important was the feeling I had being in the center of the circle. I realized that it’s okay as the teacher to sometimes put yourself in the center of the circle. It drove up the energy level for the balance of our morning. When I guessed the word correctly, the children let out a loud cheer. It was almost deafening. I wanted to phone the teachers to the right and left of me and apologize. I didn’t want to interfere with their instruction.

By allowing myself to be in the center I connected to the students differently: I understood why they enjoy this activity, how challenging it is thinking of questions that give information, yet can only be answered with a “yes” or “no”, and to have all eyes focused on you. That can be pretty uncomfortable.

I still made sure to let the students guide the learning. They chose the word, they answered my questions, and when I seemed puzzled, they provided support: “You’re on the right track, Mr. Saide,” one said. “Go back, and think about what you know so far,” another stated. “That’s a good question, Mr. Saide,” said a third. Their positive language was a reminder that they know how to present themselves when talking to others.

As the rest of the morning unfolded, I realized how lucky I was to be a teacher in this room, with this group of kids, and what a superb moment I just shared with them: they had showed initiative by asking me to go to the center of the circle. This had never happened with any other class in the seven years since I integrating Morning Meeting into the day. Students guided my questioning approach when needed, and followed the Morning Meeting guidelines they created as we participated together. They acted as I’d taught them to.

At some point, you’ll have an opportunity to go to the center of the circle. Maybe, you’ll have a lot of opportunities. Every once in awhile, take it. You may just like how it feels.

PLN Challenge (Redux x 2)

So, I was nominated three more times for the Meme 11. This brings me to five times, total. I have to be honest my friends, I'm not that interesting. Wasn't Prom King. Didn't get Valedictorian. Never won that power lifting competition. Nor, did I medal in the submarine sandwich eating contest. (though I trained my rear end off for that one).

With that being said, I am taking a page out of +Ben Gilpin's book, I will mine my soul to share 11 more things about myself (we're in the dregs here), and put +Kim Hurd, +Kristen Wilson, and +Megan Stamer's questions together in one big blob. Then, I'll answer them, too.

Goodness, I hope someone reads this.

Kim was one of my first Twitter friends. She is helpful, kind, and always has a good word. I don't know how she keeps it so positive, and so real. Great woman.

Kristen and I share a desire to verbalize ourselves through our words, yet feel hamstrung by them, as our writing doesn't always communicate our spirit. We prefer to listen and learn from others. Listening to others gives us time to process and construct our own meaning. Then, we share. Only, Kristen is smarter.

Megan is one of my newest Twitter friends, and is a new addition to NJASCD North. I've seen her at EdCamps and unconferences. I'm glad she is enthusiastic and has the passion to learn. We're going to put her to work, utilize that energy, and build something great together. The future is bright in NJ education with Megan.

Here is my third round of 11 facts about me. (Remember, we're scraping for stuff here):

1. I REALLY liked the Facts of Life TV show growing up. A little too much. I wanted to marry Nancy McKeon. I was six or seven. I thought if you liked someone, you married them. I would've been divorced A LOT with the mindset I had then.

2. I always wanted a Coleco Vision. It came out after the Atari 2600, Inellivision, and before the Atari 7800. I still want one. Turns out, they're hard to find, as they weren't big sellers back in the day. Now, they are REALLY expensive. I blame my parents for this, as I could have a cool game console that is totally out of date, could play with my kids (they'd probably be uninterested), and it would be worth money!

3. I used to pass notes to people in school all the time. And, not just to girls. I really liked getting notes, reading them, learning more about people, and writing back. It was odd then, as my guy friends were like, "What's your deal, dude? We're in high school. You want me to WRITE something to you? For fun?" Then, they'd call me words I will not repeat here.

4. We used to order pizza from this place in high school where they had one delivery guy. His name was Ben, he had a standard script he read off of, and we thought it was funny to mimic him to each other. We made up an entire back story for him. One day when he delivered pizza to us, we shared his back story with him. He didn't find it funny. We stopped ordering pizza from there.

5. I like the underdog, the quirky, the weird. People who are different are interesting to me. I want to figure out what makes them tick, why they behave the way they do, an what they find interesting. I also find people who do not conform to society easy to be around. They either don't realize they're different than the norm, don't know what the norm is, or don't care what is considered normal. I admire that, and need more of that. #goal2014

6. When I was in elementary school, I told my mom once that I wanted to be either a lawyer or a DJ. For some reason, my mom thought that was awesomely funny, and made me retell the story for days on end. Everyone laughed. I still don't get it. I was seven. Seemed right at the time.

7. I watched an episode of The Brady Bunch and saw one of the Brady boys try to grow taller by hanging from the top of the swingset bar. Didn't work for him, but I thought I was on to something. So, I tried it by hanging from my door. My mom saw me, and asked me to show others. Again, not to point fingers, but my wife wonders why I like to instigate...

8. I learned more about the mindset necessary to be a successful administrator from the friends I've met on Twitter and in ASCD than I learned in graduate school, or the six years after. There are some brilliant people out there. Some of them are late in handing in their meme homework from me. Not going to out you, but just sayin'...

9. There are people who don't blog, but should. I'd love to read Matt Mingle, Rich Kiker, Tom Murray, or Becky Kelly's thoughts. I think I would learn a lot from them. Yes, Tom, I would learn a lot from Rich. Now, be quiet. #hush

10. I laugh REALLY hard when I see the Farmers Only online dating commercial. I can't explain all the reasons why I laugh. You just need to go to Youtube.com and see it.

11. Did you ever watch the Winnebago Man on Youtube? It was awesome. I actually saw a documentary of his life. Not so awesome. Felt bad for him, actually. Brilliant guy, great sense of humor, dark view of the world.

Here are the answers to +Megan Stamer's 11 Questions:

1. What is your favorite ice cream flavor?  Mint chocolate chip. Hands down.

2. What made you decide to go into education? I liked working with kids, they seemed at easy with me, and couldn't believe you got paid for it.

3. Who was your favorite teacher and why? My favorite teacher was Mrs. Pace. She looped with my class in 3rd, 4th, and 5th grade. She really understood us, differentiated her instruction to meet our needs, and got to know us as people, not just students. I miss her.

4. What drew you to the school you work in now? The chance to work with the administration at the time. Both have since left. They were looking for people to mentor, which was why I went for my ed admin masters. I wasn't looking for a second masters. I was looking for guidance and direction. They gave me that. Still do.

5. Why do you blog? To better understand myself. To process information. To get things out. To see if others can connect or relate to what I'm thinking/feeling. To see if I'm on the right track. For feedback.

6. What is your favorite Twitter chat? Too many to list. I've co-moderated #NJED with +Bill Krakower, so I have to stay loyal to my man Billy J.

7. What is your favorite holiday? Thanksgiving. All food, football, no presents, and no one seems stressed. Plus, it's cool to sleep after you eat.

8. Where would you like to go, if you could go anywhere in the world? Texas. I answered this one in +Jill Thompson's meme. FYI, if you're not following her, you should.

9. What is biggest challenge you've ever overcome? Every obstacle I've ever put in my way by saying "You can't do this," "You don't deserve this," or something similar.

10. What is one goal you have for 2014? Stop being fat. #fittolead

11. What is your favorite color? Green, though I look better in red.

Here are the answers to +Kim Hurd Horst's 11 Questions:

1. Best App I downloaded and love is Twitter. On it all the time. Just ask my wife.

2.  Faceook is the biggest time waster for me. Honestly, who wants to know what I'm eating?

3. Schools shouldn't offer, and teachers shouldn't take cash bonuses for testing. We teach because we love what we do, we get high off of making a difference, and the opportunity to help young people succeed in life. Cash bonus? Bah humbug.

4-6. The journey I want to take is to go to Texas. See above.

7-8. A personal mascot about me would probably be a Narwhal, because it's odd, different, and attracts attention without trying to. Like me.

9. I can't go back very far at all into family ancestry. I don't think the Saide family has done too much noteworthy. I'm looking to change that.

10. My family has always been in the United States, as far as I can trace back. I wish I knew more.

11. The most awesome field trip to take the students on would be Camp Bernie in New Jersey. They can spend a day or a weekend learning leadership skills, social curriculum, and more. I have seen more positive change from this program than any other field trip in the 13 years I've been in education.

Here are the answers to +Kristen Wilson 's 11 Questions:

1. Who is your favorite actor of all time? Edward Norton. The dude is a genius.
2. If you could go to have attended any famous speech anytime in history, what would it have been? JFK's "Ask not what,..." speech. What an eloquent, poetic speaker. MLK Jr.'s "I  Have a Dream" speech is right there, too. (But everyone chooses that one).
3. What do you do to relax?  De-stress? Eat. Workout. Eat more. Sleep.
4. If you could invite anyone to dinner who would you invite and why? Jimmy Casas. The man's reach extends far, and has left the single biggest imprint on what I do.
5. Would you prefer to visit a Zoo or Aquarium and why? Zoo. Aquariums freak me out. I have an unnatural weird fear of sea horses. Don't ask.
6. Do you sing along to the radio, if yes, what is your preferred music genre?  If not, do you make fun of people who do? Yes to both. I'll sing to any song that is upbeat and gets me pumped up.
7. Favorite twitter chat? See above.
8. Best place to be quiet and reflect? Walking the dog outside is a quiet experience, and I have thought of many of my blog posts when walking the dog early in the morning.
9. Favorite book of your life? See the meme I did for +David Culberhouse.
10. Do you prefer salty or sweet? What is your favorite salty or sweet and why?? Both. Give me chocolate covered bacon. I will give you my heart.
11. What is one thing you never/rarely share that you are exceptionally proud of? I can't share it until it's legit. I'll know soon, then let you know.

Here's 11 Bloggers I want to recognize and believe they should have some love:

1. +Todd Whitaker (READ his leadership stuff)

2. +Sean Junkins (have you read his tweets in the last 24 hours?)

3. +Baruti Kafele (if you're not reading his work, you are missing out)

4. +Tom Whitford (a mentor, sounding board for me)

5. +Dan Butler (leads with heart)

6. +Bill Ferriter (we've been sharing a lot, I like how his brain works)

7. +Amy Baskin (met her at an NJASCD North conference, very passionate educator)

8. +Salome Thomas-El (because he is as passionately positive as it comes)

9. +Jeff Zoul (because he's Jeff Zoul)

10. +Nick Schiner (had some great convos with him during #chats)

11 +Paul Bogush (if you see one person present, ever, choose Paul)

Here Are 11 Questions for Those Nominated:

1. Last time you used a swear word emphatically?
2. Food good to eat anytime that is not Chinese food or pizza?
3. One inspirational quote that is not religious in nature?
4. One thing your parents made sure you learned to do that was not academic?
5. When I say Halloween, you think of a time when?
6. What motivates you?
7. What is one thing that you find "shady"?
8. One thing you said to someone that you wish you could take back?
9. When I am driving next to 18 wheeler trucks, I...(finish sentence)
10. Funniest thing you ever heard a kid say?
11. One moment you would freeze in time?

Here's The PLN blogging Challenge:

1. Acknowledge the nominating blogger.

2. Share 11 random facts about yourself.

3. Answer the 11 questions the nominating blogger has created for you.

4. List 11 bloggers. They should be bloggers you believe deserve some recognition and a little blogging love!

5. Post 11 questions for the bloggers you nominate to answer and let all the bloggers know they have been nominated. (You cannot nominate the blogger who nominated you.)